The Lesson I Learned

Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

Dear Friends

There are so many lessons I have learned in life that I wish I had known earlier it might have stopped a lot of heartache and pain.

But when carefully thinking about this question if I had some of the answers I have now at a younger age , that would have put me on a completely different path in life. Wiping away my children and grandchildren.

So I have no lessons I would wish to send back to a younger me, it’s been an uphill struggle. Sometimes I have sat and cried that I can’t continue through the heartache and pain Yet I made it to this day, there has been no answers given, just the ones I have worked hard to find, I truly think this makes me a better person for having done this on my own.

I have empathy for people from many walks of life because I have walked some pretty scary, painful paths.. hence why I had to learn for myself to become a healer.

So no I am not sharing a lesson that I wish I had learned earlier because we learn things at the appropriate times so that we understand them properly in context with the circumstances

After all Life is all about Lessons, we may not like it, but that is what it is. Learning does not stop when you leave school, you continue to learn all your life.

Many Smiles

Kim x

And So I 😂😊😂

How often do you walk or run?

Dear Friends

I am sending you all a bucket of smiles because I just made an extra batch of 😊 and I shall tell you why.

Todays prompt made me smile then laugh because as if walking wasn’t hard enough, running 🏃‍♀️!! The only running I do is when I turn on the sink taps to run the water 💦.

My wheelchair and I have a pact I sit still and it won’t run out on me. it works very well.

As much as my body is in limp mode my brain is not and that is what keeps me going.

Everyone don’t stress, do what you are good at, and let the world 🌎 do what it does and that is, keep turning.

So have a great day and if it doesn’t feel great at the moment do something to make it a memorable day.

Keep that Smile it suits you

Regards

Kim

Take Me To Your Leader

Do you see yourself as a leader?

Dear Friends

Well here I am again full of my inane chatter and useless but useful thoughts. When you have digested that little bit of nonsense we shall continue into the mind of me. 🧐

Now do I see myself as a leader? 😂 the emoji says it all, I have worn many caps so far in life.

I was no leader at school. I was loner or a follower depending on the age I was at, never unpopular but never quite making the popular list. Middle of the road

On becoming a Mother of eventually 6 children, that is not a leadership role either. That was the role of a wolf guiding her pack from the rear. Making sure no one was left behind. Teaching, coaxing, at times learning myself, playing, guiding, encouraging and loving them but never being a leader.

In my work roles I have had positions of authority and have owned my own company but have never seen myself as a leader just someone who has a job to do like everyone else has there own job to do. I always thought people respond better to someone who is prepared to work alongside not lead from the front.

I think I am an enabler not a leader

Have a lovely weekend

Keep Smiling , Kim 😎

Words Words Words

What’s your favorite word?

Words are mighty, words are fine.

Use them wisely from your lips and mine.

Dear friends,

I hope this note finds you as well as can be expected and happier than before and if not don’t fret concentrate on what will make things better.

Now my word is, well I can’t have an odd number so

1. Buttercup. xx it is a cheerful Word that I seem to use in so many situations , my favourite saying with this word is

“What’s up Buttercup”

2. Gumption love love love this word, my dad was an old school gent and some of the words he used were wonderful, this is one, a very old English but traced back to Scottish roots as far back as 1700 I believe, but I could stand to be corrected.

Dad said I had the gumption to get on in life, even if I had to be corrected, it wouldn’t phase me. To a degree he was correct but it’s taken many years to reach that point.

Because words are so very important, to even narrow it down to two was very difficult for me

Sending Smiles to all

Kim

The Evening of a Dis-Abled Diva

What are you doing this evening?

Hello again, I hope you all are well? Isn’t time passing quickly? No, you are correct it is travelling at the same speed it always has 60 seconds = 1 minute, etc maybe it’s just the nights are drawing in, therefore the evenings now are darker quicker and thoughts are turning to autumn, hot chocolate and toasted sandwiches. But for now

What will I be be doing this evening, well I shall probably fall asleep about 5pm because that’s what my condition does to me only for about an hour then the dogs will wake me to be fed. Stagger to the kitchen feed them, look at the fridge and realise I don’t have the energy to feed myself, shuffle back to the front room sit back down and do some writing, watch TV for a short while. The little dog barks at the tv non stop. It will only just after 9pm 🕘 and I will do what I always do give up on the tv and go to bed so I can read my book in peace. I always have that choice writing , tv or reading occasionally I might listen to music 🎶 but tonight I would like to finish my book

It might seem a little boring even mundane but it suits me and is much better than being married to an abusive man and every evening living in fear sat on the edge of the chair waiting. That has gone in the past thank goodness now I do as I want.

My nest is empty, children grown. Time for me at last

Bye for now

Kim

In the morning there is meaning, in the evening there is feeling. …

Red Flag 🚩 Run

What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?

We humans are a funny lot, we talk in riddles, gestures, and rarely say exactly what I’m m

So my top Red Flag 🚩 at the moment has to be the person that won’t talk about themselves at all. No details like where they live, just general area. Or what job not where but just what job. Do you have children avoids the question. 9 times out of 10 that person is probably married, the flag is nearly everyone will say I I live in the …………area. Oh I’m tired from work it’s hectic but I love doing …….. it’s my dream job.

I have been bitten twice by these type of people and all I can say is never again I can actually sense them a lot better now

lol

“ If you ignore the red flags, embrace the heartache to come.”

To Meditate or Not

How do you relax?

On this very warm sunny 🌞 day, and I will add extremely an un-British heat. I am sat with two drowsy dogs and all I can hear is the clocks ticking, I would love to say this is relaxing. But it’s not.

I’m not entirely sure what state the body and mind have to be at, to class yourself relaxed. I used to know, when you could lie back, take a deep breath and chill, kids could shout phone rings, dog gets in the flower bed didn’t bother me now that was relaxed I believe.

These days, oh dear, I’m like Frank Spencer for those old enough to remember him, I can be be just starting to just chill 😎 in my chair and the dog suddenly gets up to go out, I’m like ooh nee ahh 😱 yes mmm ok the dog is used to it, The one looks at me and rolls it’s eyes 👀, all I’m doing is going for a wee you can hear her say in its doggy way.

PTSD seems to take away my ability to relax to fully chill. So to the question what do I do to relax I try

Meditation- love this must remember to shut the German Shepherd out next time. 9 months old full of bounce and does not understand eyes closed sitting still does not mean jump on me

Television – mind numbing in general but I have watched some feel good films recently and a few documentaries that’s when maybe I start to relax a little

I guess the less I think about it the easier it is to do unless it’s crazy warm like today, and I know it’s a lot warmer around the world, please be gentle we Brits are used to paddling in an inch of water or just have duhhh weather (which is a combination of grey sky cardigans on or off just can’t tell but it’s going to rain at some point) No wonder we struggle to relax even our weather can’t relax

I am just hanging around, chilling

Words So Powerful

If you had to give up one word that you use regularly, what would it be?

Hello all, or one, or just me musing to myself. I have had a break from here for a while, too much going on, mostly in my head, but that is quite often the case. Dramas, crisis, mountains to molehills. Anyway I always pop on and have a look see what’s occurring and todays little prompt, prompted me to ….return……

HATE is the word I would happily give up here and now, it is a strong emotive word that evokes flashes of childlike behaviour but a mix of dark thoughts liberally sprinkling to paint a black scene.

As a child you hear the normal playground ‘I hate you, you smell’ five minutes later best friends. That is when it starts, as a teen I looked in the mirror and said aloud to an empty room I hate you, the seed is watered. I hated my hair, I hated my face, my choices, it ate away at me. And it grew stronger

I would catch site of myself and mutter go away I hate you. I found the word slipped to easy I hated food I hated places at times I hated life.

I do wonder if this negative word is what has drawn so many negative people into my life and therefore given me a negative outlook and life. I try to look on the bright side but since I have had to use a wheelchair, the bright side is behind a high wall and just can’t see over it . So I hate the wheelchair, see on and on it goes.

The word HATE is one that serves no purpose for me I have learnt after many years and many tears to look into a mirror into my own eyes and change my words to –

“Hey Good Looking” “What’s up Buttercup, You Look Pretty Good Today” a different approach in words has made me feel a million times better well ok at least 1000 times better

Positive words positive thoughts.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that. -Martin Luther King Jr

Oh Me Oh My

What do you enjoy most about writing?

What do I enjoy most about writing for me it’s like breathing fresh country air, its invigorating and gives me a reason explore the depths of my mind and memory.

When that becomes to much, too heavy that my tears flow, I simply change to let my imagination soar to my castle in the sky. This is where my pen flows with golden ink and tales tall of lands yet to be imagined.

Without my writing I would be lost it is my own form of therapy, I can calm myself down and sort problems out just by writing, or I can write about what has been and gone, people I have met places I have visited, happy or sad memories.

Every time I sit with my pen and book I am transported to another place, time or my castle in the sky to explore new ideas 💡 it is my favourite way to spend my time.

The only drawback is I have so many journals of writing, some transferred to the pc 🖥️ re written, spellchecked, re worked, altered, I am running out of shelves for my scribbling that are to precious to me to be sent to the recycling and worthless to anyone else.

Oh and the hard drives are slowly mounting up as well.

“Just write every day of your life. Read intensely. Then see what happens. Most of my friends who are put on that diet have very pleasant careers.”
—Ray Bradbury, WD

Not the Quantity but the Context

What is a word you feel that too many people use?

Love is a many splendored thing, or is it?

The word is overused and underrated, does anyone actually mean what they say?

Ok you can say I Love you to your children and that is generally a true statement.

But more and more the word is tossed around widely without thought or a real understanding of what Love means

an intense feeling of deep affection.

When you use it between humans or your bet lion 🦁 etc 😜

The word Love ❤️ is just everywhere, so much so that when it is used I no longer listen to it, Love you darling,

You are the Love of my life

I love your dress

And on it goes so from now on stick the loves and Luvs and I will just;

Smile 😊 and wave

Just return the Smile one day my friends 😊😂

We don’t say ‘I love you’
To those we really love.
Only to those we are deceiving
Or wish to console…. Louis Yako

“Be someone’s rainbow today.”