How do you practice self-care?

Me Time not self care is how I see it. I think it’s second nature to try to give yourself some me time and as you get older it becomes easier. What I mean is not massages and the gym and health foods although brilliant is you can afford to.

My Me Time is making a peaceful environment for my mind, body and well everything.

My Mind has to be occupied so I read and write, I find ways to keep my mind active and learning as much as I can. Me Time

My Mental State I try to make sure I have someone to talk to, someone I trust, in this day and age talking has became a forgotten skill and that is sad. Me Time

My Body I try to eat healthy but it doesn’t always work that way, but the intention is there. Exercise is a subject for Me that is difficult to manage. I am a disabled lady and this was caused through domestic violence. Movement is difficult so exercise of the body is limited to toes, ankles, stretch the legs all while sitting down. Neck and arms flex but not while holding the crutches 🩼 otherwise it will be a trip to A&E. Just do what I can do Me Time.

To Sum up Me Time

1. Meditation

2. Enjoy Life

3. Talk More

4. I can do this

5. Mindfulness

6. Energy needed from a healthy diet Me Time

?? How do you see it what do you think? This is not meant to be a selfish approach but if I said I was off for some self care my son would be what on earth!!! Because I say I need some me time, I get peace and quiet and no one dares disturb me 😂❤️

Which food, when you eat it, instantly transports you to childhood?

What food transports me back to childhood I give you four.oh dear, not all food contains good memories. Are you ready?

1. Roast Dinner UK 🇬🇧 old fashioned British style roast, not my mothers cooking but my step fathers. Mother walked out when I was about 13 so my step dad who was a farmer not a cook, tried his hand at the Sunday roast. Please dear friends remember not only was he traumatised that his wife was gone but he had his two young step daughters and his 6yr old son to care for. I digress. So all was going well with my help the meat and roast potatoes were about cooked, and the vegetables were slid to the side of the old Rayburn (like an aga but smaller). Now came the gravy, now there wasn’t these gravy granules then we had proper gravy as some like to say. Meat juices, flour, oxo cubes, vegetable water and maybe a bit of gravy browning. None of us knew the quantities so in the pan it all went and it was the first time I have ever had a slice of gravy, but it was tasty. Best Sunday Roast ever from there dad got better till his gravy was just right. I think that’s where my love of a roast dinner came from.

2. Lamb . I try it every now and then and it takes me right back to being a kid and saying I had finished and being told to eat everything on my plate . And as time went on I had tried but when you are so full you gag that was me then. So the plate was in front of me, congealing fat globules growing around the meat, and I remember crying as I was told I would get it for breakfast and evening meal for the next week. I tried but I heaved and was sent to bed. Yes it was given to me for breakfast and placed there in front of me, cold congealed lamb and cabbage with a tiny amount of potatoe on last night’s dinner plate. I went to school hungry, thank goodness for school dinners back then. That night mum served up our food and everyone recieved plate and mine came back to haunt me she had kept that plated remains of the congealed fatty lamb and i sobbed. My step-dad put an end to this fiasco. Needless to say lamb and I do not have a good relationship, one bite and I am that little girl crying again

3. Homemade cakes 🍰 ie melting moments, rock cakes, Victoria sponge cake, transported back to my Auntie Babs kitchen, she taught me to Cook to crystallise flowers for cakes and so much more

4. Strawberries 🍓 straight back to Auntie Babs garden, sat with a huge glass of homemade lemonade and a dish full of summer fruits and ice cream. Mine was always Strawberries and Raspberries with a sprig of mint on top. Wow would have been from the age of about 10 onwards I suppose

Who is your favorite historical figure?

Favourite! What is it with this word favourite? No I do not have a favourite historical character, make it hysterical and I could name a very short list. But re the historical gosh make it a dinner party and who would I invite and why, now that would be so much more fun. I would have to have a party from the past every week and I would make sure that the characters were well matched to say the least.

Now having said all of the above I think for now I am going to say Genghis Khan…. Yes the same man who has been said to have been a monster, who unified several nomadic tribes in his Mongol homeland then was proclaimed as the ruler of all Mongols by 1216. By 1219 he ruled from Northern China to the Afghan border and from Siberia to the border of Tibet. Yes there are horrific stories about him but have you notice in history horror stories are spread to keep any good a person may have done quiet. Yes millions were slaughtered not condoning it but these things happened each time after he was double crossed he sought to teach that nation a lesson so the books say. He did many good things but this is not supposed to be a history lesson. He definitely would be one of my first guests at an afterlife dinner party, along with Mother Theresa. Yes I have my table set and list waiting just hope they have a sense a humour, but at the end of the day what’s the worst that can happen someone dies. Oops 🙊

Write about your first crush.

Oh dear me first crush, oh I am shaking my head in shame. How this happened is anyone’s guess but it was the hero in some book I read, I did think Mr Pink-Whistle may have stolen my heart for a short moment before that but Enid Blytons characters as I grew lured me along with them. Yes my crushes were within the pages of books. I don’t remember the names just that one day I wanted my own library so I could surround myself with these heroes.

Amazing because I now have my library, but the books are so varied that I no longer look for heroes to crush over, after all I am an adult, a mature woman. At least my crushes could never break my heart, except maybe the occasional Mills&Boon stories 😊

What countries do you want to visit?

A return to the USA would be amazing but I am grounded due to a medical condition. I will add there are so many areas of the UK 🇬🇧 that I have yet to visit that it seems a shame to miss all the beauty here.

Ah there again lies the issue for me, my lack of mobility, and unable to travel alone makes visiting anywhere a logistical nightmare.

I know the question didn’t ask any of this, I just had to explain why I don’t want to visit anywhere, because wanting will lead to daydreaming and planning. I am not in a position to allow my mind that freedom to roam with ideas that cannot take place, sadly.

What’s your favorite thing about yourself?

Gosh, wow, where to start, from a person who finds it hard to like anything about myself. Well it’s true I have to tell myself everyday to be kind to myself.

But the one thing I like about myself is I am a survivor, one of the warriors that whatever has knocked me down, I rise up. After one knock down I rose up with armour, well crutches and wheelchair 😎 see there is always a smile in there somewhere

Or am I a weeble they wobble but don’t fall down (for the Oder generation)