This is the last Saturday in September and here has been chilly with overcast grey clouds a totally dull and dismal day
So back to the prompt ‘what trait do I value most about myself, to be totally honest I don’t know. I have thought about it so much all day and this prompt has me so confused about myself.
So I came to say it’s ok not to be sure what trait you most value it’s ok not to be sure which one is the worst one you have. Because you are an individual and people who know you will be aware of your good points. I expect I could say half a dozen things but this prompt almost had a pompous feel to it
List three jobs you’d consider pursuing if money didn’t matter.
My Dearest Friend(s)
One must apologise for one’s absence, I realise no one noticed, but it is indeed good manners to pass on one’s sincerity’s. Hey for one moment I actually sounded rather 19th century posh, how tiresome.
Well back to the prompt of the day, of course money is an issue in most dream jobs, but I am hindered by mobility so for the sake of a fair playing field for one day and one day only Kim is going to be (drum role please) NOT HINDERED BY CRUTCHES OR WHEELCHAIR
1/ I would like to own and run a mega fancy dress shop that hires and sells quality Reasonably priced fun wear for all ages, within that shop their will be a seamstress or two and we will cater for parties , weddings i.e medieval themed occasions. Even tv in the area , stage anything . It would be the party warehouse central. Even throwing it’s own events monthly over the region. Children’s parties 🎉 not a problem our vehicles would be kitted out with everything needed . Good old days of the party bus well there would be a venue of party buses Hows that for job number one
2/ I have always wanted my own crafting workshop set up for ease of access, not even saying I want equipment, I would use what I have and I would like the workshop to have a shop/display front so that I have a place to display my work and part of the studio frontage can be hired by starting artists to give them a step up so the public can see and enjoy and hopefully buy our creations
3/ A book shop combined coffee shop combining two passions in one, my love of books, and coffee with a snack of course. Not so much a new book shop but a second chance book shop, pre loved books waiting to be read again. Actually if someone came in and bought coffee and cake and sat in the comfy chairs with a book that would be ok with me . Because this would be perfect. Let the troubles slip away at Kim’s cozy cafe & book nook. This place would be serving the community in many ways, nothing to do but don’t want to sit alone, come sit and have a hot chocolate in the coffee shop, join the book club well one of them . Kids area with a reader and to be honest what’s better than comfy chairs a coffee and a book. Or keeping warm and having a natter with Maureen and her neighbour Paula. So much you can do for people if you just want help
My three ideal jobs if money and health were not a problem
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?
Dear Friends
In the 57 year I have been on this earth I have probably been given much advice, more than I can possibly remember. Some has been very inspirational, some practical. And some, well, definitely not the best but probably the most comical advice, for example and no explanations given look it up or ask a friend if you don’t understand
Remember only chickens produce anything good sat on their backsides (farming background)
Don’t eat yellow snow ⛄️
Don’t back racehorses.
Silence is golden, till you have kids, then it’s, what the heck are they up to now
Now many people will wonder why I have put those in , simply because there will be so many of the normal live laugh love, living wholesome lives, be happy etc all I could think of was the comical things. Those are the ones that have got me through life,
There is nothing amazing that stands out in my mind, the only thing I would pass to anyone else is
Follow your path your dreams, live your life, walk your journey. Don’t let anyone stop you from being YOU.
That for me is a difficult question, although I love music 🎶 I listened mostly when driving, so when my health deteriorated and I could no longer drive, I seemed to stop listening to music so much.
I live in a world of almost silence, I would say 95% of my life is silence 🤐. I don’t like it but it is a coping mechanism for me. On a good day music is on and an out of tune, once alto voice now more a harpy can be heard warbling all the right words. Only they sound wrong because the singers get the lyrics back to front all the time. Amateurs!
Those days are few and far between, not me getting the words right and everyone else singing some other rubbish that happens all the time 😂 but music, radio even tv can stop the sound of silence. Unless you suffer the same way it is difficult to understand.
So for the days when I close my eyes and my mind waltzes me of to Strauss’s, Blue Danube or I’m in the mood for a little,
Come on Eileen by Dexteys Midnight Runners, a little
Miley, or even dad
Billy-Ray,
Bob Marley,
Johnny Cash.
The list could go on for a very long time but that’s not what this is about, for those moments that throw me back to happier times, a world without music 🎼 would turn this dark place in which I live, into a black abyss. Never to have hope of seeing the light again, never to feel the sun on my face. That is what life would be like taking away that final bit of joy left that I have.
Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.
Dear Friends
There are so many lessons I have learned in life that I wish I had known earlier it might have stopped a lot of heartache and pain.
But when carefully thinking about this question if I had some of the answers I have now at a younger age , that would have put me on a completely different path in life. Wiping away my children and grandchildren.
So I have no lessons I would wish to send back to a younger me, it’s been an uphill struggle. Sometimes I have sat and cried that I can’t continue through the heartache and pain Yet I made it to this day, there has been no answers given, just the ones I have worked hard to find, I truly think this makes me a better person for having done this on my own.
I have empathy for people from many walks of life because I have walked some pretty scary, painful paths.. hence why I had to learn for myself to become a healer.
So no I am not sharing a lesson that I wish I had learned earlier because we learn things at the appropriate times so that we understand them properly in context with the circumstances
After all Life is all about Lessons, we may not like it, but that is what it is. Learning does not stop when you leave school, you continue to learn all your life.
I am sending you all a bucket of smiles because I just made an extra batch of 😊 and I shall tell you why.
Todays prompt made me smile then laugh because as if walking wasn’t hard enough, running 🏃♀️!! The only running I do is when I turn on the sink taps to run the water 💦.
My wheelchair and I have a pact I sit still and it won’t run out on me. it works very well.
As much as my body is in limp mode my brain is not and that is what keeps me going.
Everyone don’t stress, do what you are good at, and let the world 🌎 do what it does and that is, keep turning.
So have a great day and if it doesn’t feel great at the moment do something to make it a memorable day.
Well here I am again full of my inane chatter and useless but useful thoughts. When you have digested that little bit of nonsense we shall continue into the mind of me. 🧐
Now do I see myself as a leader? 😂 the emoji says it all, I have worn many caps so far in life.
I was no leader at school. I was loner or a follower depending on the age I was at, never unpopular but never quite making the popular list. Middle of the road
On becoming a Mother of eventually 6 children, that is not a leadership role either. That was the role of a wolf guiding her pack from the rear. Making sure no one was left behind. Teaching, coaxing, at times learning myself, playing, guiding, encouraging and loving them but never being a leader.
In my work roles I have had positions of authority and have owned my own company but have never seen myself as a leader just someone who has a job to do like everyone else has there own job to do. I always thought people respond better to someone who is prepared to work alongside not lead from the front.
I hope this note finds you as well as can be expected and happier than before and if not don’t fret concentrate on what will make things better.
Now my word is, well I can’t have an odd number so
1. Buttercup. xx it is a cheerful Word that I seem to use in so many situations , my favourite saying with this word is
“What’s up Buttercup”
2. Gumption love love love this word, my dad was an old school gent and some of the words he used were wonderful, this is one, a very old English but traced back to Scottish roots as far back as 1700 I believe, but I could stand to be corrected.
Dad said I had the gumption to get on in life, even if I had to be corrected, it wouldn’t phase me. To a degree he was correct but it’s taken many years to reach that point.
Because words are so very important, to even narrow it down to two was very difficult for me
Hello again, I hope you all are well? Isn’t time passing quickly? No, you are correct it is travelling at the same speed it always has 60 seconds = 1 minute, etc maybe it’s just the nights are drawing in, therefore the evenings now are darker quicker and thoughts are turning to autumn, hot chocolate and toasted sandwiches. But for now
What will I be be doing this evening, well I shall probably fall asleep about 5pm because that’s what my condition does to me only for about an hour then the dogs will wake me to be fed. Stagger to the kitchen feed them, look at the fridge and realise I don’t have the energy to feed myself, shuffle back to the front room sit back down and do some writing, watch TV for a short while. The little dog barks at the tv non stop. It will only just after 9pm 🕘 and I will do what I always do give up on the tv and go to bed so I can read my book in peace. I always have that choice writing , tv or reading occasionally I might listen to music 🎶 but tonight I would like to finish my book
It might seem a little boring even mundane but it suits me and is much better than being married to an abusive man and every evening living in fear sat on the edge of the chair waiting. That has gone in the past thank goodness now I do as I want.
My nest is empty, children grown. Time for me at last
Bye for now
Kim
In the morning there is meaning, in the evening there is feeling. …
What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?
We humans are a funny lot, we talk in riddles, gestures, and rarely say exactly what I’m m
So my top Red Flag 🚩 at the moment has to be the person that won’t talk about themselves at all. No details like where they live, just general area. Or what job not where but just what job. Do you have children avoids the question. 9 times out of 10 that person is probably married, the flag is nearly everyone will say I I live in the …………area. Oh I’m tired from work it’s hectic but I love doing …….. it’s my dream job.
I have been bitten twice by these type of people and all I can say is never again I can actually sense them a lot better now
lol
“ If you ignore the red flags, embrace the heartache to come.”
Bucket of Smiles 