Free to visit

Do you have a favorite place you have visited? Where is it?

Hello, 👋 yes I’m back again. I didn’t think I would be, you see I didn’t see the point, I tell you what I’m thinking, and well that’s boring for anyone to read. I lost myself for a while I guess we all do some more than others, me I get lost from my bedroom to the bathroom in the night. Yes I am that bad. Anyway I saw this prompt about my favourite place I have visited and well this is a perfect time of year to tell you about it.

So, first thing it’s free to visit, thank goodness as I have been there so many times. I find there is something to cover every subject. Hope, love, friendship, family, maybe today I am seeing the brighter side, because if you stay to longer it can be exhausting. Same can be said of anywhere I guess.

You can visit alone or with family or friends, or a group of people depending on what interests they have.

By now you are going Ohhh I know, and so you might but when I revisit old memories or picture albums or even photos in this digital age I don’t look back with regret I look back with happiness that the moment happened, everyone of those revisited moments good or bad has led to this moment now. I may not be doing what I had intended but my children are adults and doing well.

I visit my memories and photographs often to remind myself, how lucky I have been to have survived the D/V I went through, the endless moving to protect my children, the disability and loss of everything home, family and friends.

The one thing I have is that perfect place I can visit Memories whether down Photograph Lane, tucked away in Corner of My Mind or Digital Parade. I have three favourite places all connected that I can share or not, places that everyone should visit with the same thought-

Memories are a snapshot from behind us.

They form who we have become, our love, our trust.

My memories cause me to laugh at what I’m wearing

Then sometimes a little tear spills, see I can still be caring.

I disappear into the vaults of yesteryear for five minutes.

Then find I have been there for hours, so let’s wing it.

People who have left this world, I see their smiling faces.

My babies all grown ups and having all their own places.

So ask me once again do I have a favourite place to visit?

My answer is yes, the past where all my photos tell a story a perfect place to visit..

Kim Louise dec 2025

The future?

What are you most excited about for the future?

Hello dear readers of today, have I missed some major news article regarding the future? No I didn’t think so. Let me entertain you with the of life ME

Now we have a word called yesterday, well it’s gone nothing you can do about it, it happened, move on, it’s behind you (in the words of my mental health provider). With a flick of the wrist as if pushing an imaginary past behind her, she dismissed my whole domestic violence background and other major life struggles, as if puff 💨 wow, everything would disappear. Big mistake Woman, I wasn’t alone, I had a friend with me. 1. To push my wheelchair. 2. To help me with memory and stop me from freezing up. 3. Because of my PTSD I am terrible at being alone, no change that I couldn’t be alone when out.

My friend witnessed every word said, Claire has become my friend over the years I have known her, but her official title is personal assistant (posh for carer).

So back to yesterday, gone but Hell and Damnation it is not forgotten, all our yesterdays make us who we are and are learning curves( supposed to be). Also just to be a tiny bit pedantic here but if we are to forget YESTERDAY isn’t that what history is a culmination of all of the yesterdays of the world? 🌍

Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. ‘ George Santayana

Ok moving on

Today, the Present. Well each day is a new start and it’s a chance to right wrongs , finish tasks, watch that movie you have been promising you would, but how many people make full use of each moment. We are allotted an amount of time in this world, a commodity that you cannot buy or sell, ok smart arse, yes clocks and watches etc but they don’t lengthen your life. The issue is how many people use their time to the max (I don’t). I leave so much not done even though I have plans, nothing falls into place, the harder I seem to try the worse it gets. I keep saying I just want the house and garden to look like my plans to be tidy not jumbled and bop there is always an issue. We should all be living our best life and I guarantee not many people are.

I am lucky to have a home I know that , I am lucky to have furniture to fill it and I am grateful for what I have. Becoming disabled in my late 40s and being uprooted so many times has made life so difficult. I am grateful I was able to protect my children as they asked, it cost me family and friends and I live alone now, the children have grown and I am redundant as are all parents eventually. I just would have liked my present to have been a little more settled. That’s enough of my present.

Now we go the future , who know what will happen, I don’t see peace anytime soon, I would like to see order in my life so I can concentrate on finish some of the projects I have waiting in the sidelines

I never think of the future.It comes soon enough.” – Albert Einstein.

Truth is I am not looking forward nor backward I am concentrating on now, because, yesterday is past, tomorrow is whisper away, today is all I have here in the present

With love as ever

Kim-Louise

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” – Buddha

Wrong Question

What sacrifices have you made in life?

Hello to one or more of you that are kind enough to drop by to read the insane ramblings from a over active mind.

Well I was purusing my messages earlier and up popped this prompt about what sacrifices have I made in life. At first I was tempted to just leave it, but it kept pulling me back. So I thought it’s my mind, and it wants to have its say. I can’t help the way it will read or what people might say.

Sometimes just sometimes, we all need to be recognised for what we have done or not done for someone else.

Now my gears are running let’s go

I have sacrificed more than I can explain in a single piece of writing (most people would be asleep with boredom after the first 15 minutes) hence. That is why I am attempting to write my book. Anyways I digress;

From the Cambridge Dictionary

Sacrifice

to give up something that is valuable to you in order to helpanother person:

sacrifice something for something Many women sacrifice interesting careers for their families

I have sacrificed my everything, home, health, future and happiness to protect and love people who have no idea the true horrors of a domestic violence relationship and what you go through for your children. After all it’s so true no one knows what goes on behind closed doors.

Must go speak soon

From the lady in the chair (wheelchair)

Kim-Louise

He. She. They. Them.

Who are the biggest influences in your life?

Hello my friend

Firstly I send from me to you Seasons Greetings and may the New Year bring you Peace, Hope & Security, in whatever form that may take.

Now the biggest influences in my life have been;

My wonderful step-dad
The twins at St Claire’s, and all of Enid Blytons books. She brought me through my childhood.
A wonderful lady who lived down a woodland track near Dads farm. She was the most amazing teacher of life, baking, gardening and nature.
Mitch Album, author of Five People you Meet in Heaven. That book changed my thinking .

Two people that were actually in my life and two authors, amazing when I stop to think of all the people that I have come in contact with in my 58 years and those are the only ones I can say have really influenced me.

I am lucky to have had My Dad he was the most amazing lovely kind man.

As for the lady in the wood she was a beautiful soul, who I could tell all my troubles to. As was the custom when I grew up, adults were always Mr & Mrs, this lady became known as Auntie Babs to me. I guess she adopted me into her life.

Looking at this I can see how blessed I have been

Take care

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Happy Shiny People are my type

Who are your favorite people to be around?

Hello my friend

Can I just say the title they don’t have to be shiny because that might be strange almost alien 👽 like, so stick to what is written BeLoW.

Let’s get straight into it today, the prompt that is. Who are my favourite people to be around? Simple, happy 😃, optimistic, people with enough intelligence to hold a conversation, people that have empathy and are kind, but have that witty spark ⚡️. People who suddenly burst into a one line of a song because maybe a word has reminded them of the song 🎶 or a colour or anything. The sort of people who you wouldn’t put together as a group, but that’s the best group, age, colour, creed nor gender matter when you have happiness in your heart you just radiate sunshine that spreads to everyone around you

My tagline is Kim-Louise, Spreading Smiles. I have used that for many years, partly because happy people make better choices in life. So smile and share some of that glow

Sending Smiles Across the Miles

Kim-Louise

The Best Gift 🎁

What is the greatest gift someone could give you?

Dear Friend

When asked what is the greatest gift someone could give me, I have to answer from a place deep inside of myself I was unaware existed ;

I am not in need of anything thank you.

Material goods I am used to providing for myself, I need nothing and for that I am very lucky. I have sorted needs from wants at it certainly frees your mind.

I have done the, all I want is love and trust and it’s blown up in my face as it is unwrapped ..

If I have to give an answer it would be Time the greatest gift on earth.

There is one drawback with this request no one can add more time to your life but is that what I was asking?

No I am asking for someone to spend some Time with me.

The only issue being I have no special someone to spend that Time with me !

Take care

Kim Louise

Relationship ;noun

What relationships have a positive impact on you?

Dearest Reader

I do hope you are well?

Relationship. ;noun

the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected.”the study will assess the relationship between unemployment and political attitudes”

When asked what relationships have had a positive impact on me, I almost passed it by but sometimes a little soul searching is good for us all. Or maybe the word I should use is cathartic.

My stepfather has had the biggest impact on my life relationship wise, now please remember we are talking pop positive vibes only, here they are

1. Stepdad he bought me up,taught me respect and values and bought God into my life. it broke me when he died a year ago.

2. Current Partner has shown me that love is real and will do anything to make me feel safe, he makes the traumas of my past disappear.

3. Carer this lady has been with me 12+ years she is amazing. It is good to have someone who knows me so well, that if needed can anticipate my every move when I’m poorly . As a bonus she has become my best friend as time has passed. Life would be so dull without her

These are the relationships that have defined me in a positive way,

We are so nearly at the of end another year , I wish you a Happy New Year 🥳

I hope you all have a pleasant day and hopefully communicate again

Kim Louise

I give you my time – Will you give me yours?

Who do you spend the most time with?

I spend most of my time with myself, who until recently I actually didnt like very much. Then it’s a close call between my rather bad tempered, big on attitude rescue Pug who has suddenly become a senior at the age of 7, I am told this happens. So I guess he is now a grumpy old man. Very close on time spent with me is my son’s German Shepherd Puppy. Who can stand over the top of Frank the Pug and not touch his head, she is 6 months old. Have done all the house training, for the puppy my son is still learning. She has just started to behave a little better, after months of unholy words being uttered and being driven mad

Please be aware no animal was hurt in the course of living with me, my 31yr old son, yes well that’s a different story, I may dream of many ways to deal with bratty adult children but I couldn’t if I tried. He is 6ft3in and quick I am 5ft4 and disabled and slow,

I don’t spend much time with my son we clash, so if I had to pick a human it would be my carer Claire she is the only other person I spend a quantity of time with 24 hrs a week to be precise, and together we just laugh our way through everything. She is my best friend/carer/partner-in-mischief and keeper of official secrets. I mean we all need a Claire in our lives.