What traditions have you not kept that your parents had?

I wasn’t going to bother today because I am so surprised at myself at the traditions that have gone just within my family.

I used to think it was important to keep birthdays and Christmas traditions because that was how I had been brought up. Then when I married it’s like two worlds collided, not everyone is lucky enough to have the perfect partner that just either goes with the flow or maybe was bought up the same way. Slowly over the years our Christmas traditions altered because it was difficult finding a balance and after 10yrs our mis communication or maybe non communication bought to an end that marriage. Traditions re birthdays changed, even as far as buying school uniform and shoes it felt like I was sticking two fingers up at my step-dad who raised me but life itself was causing these changes.

Then I made the foolish move of marrying an Arse-hole, now if you are of a delicate nature I am sorry. This husband was , well , um. He didn’t like anything I may have ever done in the past with my children, my family etc , so all traditions died.

I did try to resurrect some when we escaped the madman but it was wrong the past had chewed it up and spat it out , I was ill and we had to create something new. Sadly nothing we did survived that I am aware of

All my children are adults and are busy creating new traditions with their partners and children. At least I have given then the desire to create something from the tatters of my crappy past .

I do think back sometimes and realise it was all a farce just painted smiles and meaningless gestures acted out year after year . Christmas the decorations went up and they were just covering gaps in what appeared to be a wonderful family but I know my childhood was anything but wonderful. I think maybe that is why traditions I was happy to let go of so easily