Hello, how are you? Wow it’s been a while. So tell me what have you been doing and how is everyone?
I miss you, I love you, you are my world. In this life and the next, I will find you and destroy your happiness. He was mine till you killed our love with poison words.
That is why I love writing because WORDS are powerful, wonderful, thought provoking, exciting and so many more emotive thoughts. The written word can enrage or soothe, excite or scare, teach or spread propaganda.
Used in a positive way I find words soothe me as in song words .
I write for children with tales of wonder wrapped in fact
I write for adults of facts woven with artistic licence.
I write poetry to expand and please the mind
I write fact for us to remember lives as they were before all is lost.
I write because that’s who I am.
Write a short story a week. It’s not possible to write 52 bad short stories in a row.”
We meet at such a sad moment, I shall be very brief on this ~ go to comfort food (sob). To make myself heard I repeat ((SOB)).
I was always torn between corned beef sandwiches on white bread with butter and a layer of tomato ketchup, Heinz tomato 🍅 ketchup at that. Always made me feel good, of course only one thing could top that Cadburys chocolate, oh my goodness, now that was the closest thing to floating for me. Those two were my go to comfort foods sweet and savoury.
“There is no sincerer love than the love of food,” by George Bernard Shaw
But now the closest I get to a comfort food is a fresh fruit salad with nectarines or a freshly cooked chicken fillet with a Caesar salad.
Caesar Salad
Explanation well through life I have needed a lot of comfort food, yes needed, life has been difficult, is the polite way of saying it. Now the need is to lose the residue of the comfort food, also known as FAT, wibbly, wobbly , jiggly excess, surplus to requirements, scale busting, obese morbidly (yes according to the charts). This triple bellied hippo has spent the last 37 days surprising no one but myself, eating healthy food and loving it. No processed or pre prepared food just healthy (boy is it expensive) living.
Drinking water and plenty of it, gone from coffee, white, two sugars to coffee black one sweetener but prefer Stevia (all natural sweetener from stevia plant). Admit I still have the odd zero can of pop/soda which is ok.
I just can’t believe this snuffling comfort eater has changed so quickly. All it took was a look in the mirror and a realisation this is not who I want to be.
So I truly look forward to the next thirty something days to seeing less of me and as I am now 16lb lighter I will no longer be a triple bellied Hippo I will be a double bellied Hippo
I just wanted to say you look good today. No don’t shake your head you are looking good. Don’t give me the I’m to old or skinny, rotund or haven’t got me teeth in, whatever excuse you are going to think of I am telling you that I think you look amazing. Please keep that in mind and, hang on 👣👣👣👣👣👣👣 ok I’m back can you catch this
That’s it, my bucket 🪣 of smiles, take a handful for yourself and share them out, give a smile to a stranger that you meet, it maybe the only friendly gesture on their street. Share those smiles far and wide, I always make many more, actually a fresh batch every day, I can find and post the recipe another day.
Ah that leads me to what bothers me the most, right here and now, in 2025, without being political because I could kick up a storm there. No I promised myself to be a better person in, err, starting, um, err, July 2025 .
What bothers me the most here and now is how little happiness is found in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧. Even during war time people pulled together and helped one another out. Ok not everyone but a percentage of the population got together. Now people have lost all ability to socialise and enjoy themselves hooked on mobile phones. It’s a sad place to live when schools are so concerned about safeguarding the wrong things that actual bullying goes unseen. When children can’t talk about their heritage because the British heritage is seen as not part of multi cultural. Our pensioners are concerned about their future with every government statement All this bothers me because our country is a sad place to live, NOW.
All I would love to do is share smiles to those that need them, what’s a disabled dizzy diva to do
Non of this is intended to cause upset to anyone this is just what bothers me
It’s been a strange week full of nothingness, seriously a week where nothing has affected my thoughts or emotions, I have just literally just glided through this week with little to no recollection to what I have done, said, or felt. It is almost like I have dreamt this week away, I have checked with people and they say I have appeared normal(well they obviously don’t know me that well). So oh well another week added onto my age with nothing achieved.
Leading nicely to my next piece, when I was younger all I could think was older people that included 35+ yrs were past it for anything but sleeping, snoring, passing wind and asking if you had clean underwear on in case you got hit by a bus( must have been a thing when I was growing up) hated to say to Nan they wouldn’t be clean for long if I got hit by a bus 🤭.
Now I am a lady with 59 yrs of earth experiences I can give you a few examples of things that get better with age
Sex, if you relax like and want it
Outlook on life, you should have had enough experience to be able to inwardly think, that doesn’t need to affect me so let it go
Sex you know what you like so don’t settle for second best
Your kids grow up and leave home. Now when you are younger you think oh my babies no I don’t want them to grow up – trust me you do – when they leave and your home becomes your home, you love their visits but as you get older you love the peace.
Finally Sex . Some people think as you age it is taboo. Off the table, no it is better than ever because you don’t have all those hang ups from before ,
You are an amazing creation just go through life from beginning to end and celebrate every new experience and learn from it. For with age generally comes wisdom, maybe not with everyone, in the majority of cases.
Nothing I write is ever meant to offend anyone, whatever I write is my own thoughts, findings or experiences I will let you decide which is which and what is what
Have a wonderful life because we have no idea what time we will have on this spinning sphere in a vast universe of darkness.
I just try to live each day as if it was my last therefore every day is a fairly good day
What strategies do you use to increase comfort in your daily life?
My dear friend,
Thank you for stopping by for this quick chat, how are you today? Yes I am fine thank you 😉.
Now as I was having a look at these random prompts that appear, supposedly to help with our writing, but really some things you just want to answer NO. Then leave it and see if anyone questions what do you mean NO, I might do it one day and not in context either. Well you’re my friend so of course I would pre warn you. Anyway I digress again, I saw today’s little jog for the writing and thought I have an absolute wonder of an answer for you.
What strategies do you use to increase comfort in your daily life?
Answer 1. NO ( Only joking)
2. What is the point in planning strategies to increase comfort, in a world not suited to strategic thinking or planning.
Instead I
a. Aim to wake each morning
b. Live as stress free life as possible
c. Make as few plans or strategic contingencies for my comfort as possible,
Then life just keeps me sailing day to day, me and my wheelchair, my pain dealt with daily and no plans needed strategic or otherwise. I like life to be uncomplicated as is possible.
Now I am going to leave it there and do something else, till we meet again, because we will if we are supposed to and all that stuff.
What could you let go of, for the sake of harmony?
Hi, hello again, it’s been a while, as usual life just takes these twists and turns and before you know it a week or month can pass and time can fly by. Yet nothing has been achieved, sad fact isn’t it we act as if we have all the time in the world, when truthfully at any moment our clock could just, stop,
NOW.
So here I am again trying so hard to prioritise what is important in my life, trying to find some harmony, and it’s almost like having to sell my soul. Which is never and can’t happen. So how will I find harmony? What will I let go of to attain said harmony? Well truth is I won’t let go of anything.
This lady has lost so much physically, materially and I guess mentally that I refuse to let go of anything I have left. Instead like a symphony I intend to weave my life together to make a harmonious piece of music that suits the way I now want to live.
It may sound selfish, I can assure you, it is not, my babies have grown flown away and have babies of their own. I live by myself because who wants a woman who can’t hold hands walking side by side. Let alone struggles with housework and other simple tasks. My life is becoming more harmonious because I am learning that life goes on no matter what I do so I just add another instrument into my symphony when change has to happen.
For example, my son having a hissy fit because he is good at doing these things, he is 34 , it messes with the harmonies so I just put a drum in to drown him out . No I’m not completely loopy, but it works and if it works why change it
Symphony- the simple definition of a symphony? agreement or concord of sound – harmony
Harper Collins Definition
HARMONY
noun
agreement in action, opinion, feeling, etc; accord
order or congruity of parts to their whole or to one another
agreeable sounds
music
any combination of notes sounded simultaneously
the vertically represented structure of a piece of music Compare melodyrhythm
the art or science concerned with the structure and combinations of chords
a collation of the material of parallel narratives, esp of the four Gospels
In many cultures, harmony is considered an important virtue. As a personal, social, or environmental accomplishment, harmony has a place in everyday conversation, political discourse, as well as academic scholarship
What’s the oldest thing you own that you still use daily?
Dearest Friend
I have thought about this long and hard and the oldest thing that belongs to me, that is in daily use I hate to say is falling apart, and as it is a limited edition there are no spare parts. The chassis is twisted, it’s done too many miles. Paintwork is faded and to be honest the seat padding is bursting out all over.
The oldest thing I have in daily use is MYSELF. 59 in yrs feel 89 at times but my mind thinks I am still 19
Feel Like A Clapped Out Vehicle
Apart from my soft toy rabbit who is the same age as me and actually looks worse than I do(if that’s possible) anything older I own ie crockery is used for special occasions. Ornaments are in glass cabinets. I on the other hand am a living almost working relic of 1966 a disabled diva with a sense of humour and sarcasm in sacks
A legacy – the long-lasting impact of particular events, actions, etc. that took place in the past, or of a person’s life ( copied from Oxford Language Dictionary)
B legacy- an amount of money or property left to someone in a will.
So I am aware of what I would like to leave as my legacy the only issue is, no matter how you go about things someone will always find a reason to put you down. Now ok I will be gone my physical body reduced to dust so why am I thinking about it because I had hoped in death I would have received better than I did in life.
So I am hoping that my written words will have an impact, a glimpse into the world of me. The words no one listened to, a poignant glimpse into the trials of who I was and survival. The comedy of life and observation of the world around me.
The other part of my legacy is my children and grandchildren to carry on their hard work. To carry forth love and laughter out onto this world
What a day today has been, I woke up with my eyes opening, wider and then, I can say hand on heart I had my eyes wide open. Seriously it was amazing, Then I said to myself ‘What a wonderful world’. I asked the device that’s always listen (no not Sir Starmer Llamas army) to ‘Turn the Radio on’ .
One final check in the mirror before starting my day I heard ‘Nellie the Elephant 🐘 packed her trunk’, playing on the radio and smiling to myself I went to make a coffee.
I was ‘Walking on Sunshine’ or rather sitting on the stairlift and gliding on sunshine streaming through the window.
Oops forgot about the reason I came here to write to you and chat, well I saw this little prompt or question whatever you wish to call it, interesting was my second thought, my first being another cup of coffee.
So how do I feel about cold weather ? Well several things to be fair, I am not an Eskimo nor am I an Amazonian Warrior Women .
I do not like cold because my legs ache, my muscles cramp, and my internal thermostat seem have to broken. So my feet are always cold and look slightly blue.
On the other hand I am not happy with heat either as again I cannot control my internal temperature
So conclusion;
I am not an Eskimo, neither do I ever or have I ever fancied holidaying in colder corners of the globe. So therefore I am not a fan of the cold, freezing, or frozen, re the cold, what’s the point all I do is wrap up and get the blankets out, until it warms a little. I’m rather lucky as here in the UK 🇬🇧 we don’t suffer to much with extremes in temperatures but we suffer with not being able to afford to heat our homes. That though is another story and not a fairy story either, one full of wicked lies and robbing greedy people, demons and wizards 😂😂
Actually I think if I was told I had to live in colder climates I would go live in a bear den and hibernate till the sun shone and the ground warmed again.
Good Day Sunshine
The Beatles
Good day sunshine Good day sunshine Good day sunshine
I need to laugh, and when the sun is out I’ve got something I can laugh about I feel good, in a special way I’m in love and it’s a sunny day
Stay warm or cool whichever is your preference you are all still part of the same wonderful crazy bunch of humans on this planet that could all be friends if you wanted to be.
Hello to one or more of you that are kind enough to drop by to read the insane ramblings from a over active mind.
Well I was purusing my messages earlier and up popped this prompt about what sacrifices have I made in life. At first I was tempted to just leave it, but it kept pulling me back. So I thought it’s my mind, and it wants to have its say. I can’t help the way it will read or what people might say.
Sometimes just sometimes, we all need to be recognised for what we have done or not done for someone else.
Now my gears are running let’s go
I have sacrificed more than I can explain in a single piece of writing (most people would be asleep with boredom after the first 15 minutes) hence. That is why I am attempting to write my book. Anyways I digress;
I have sacrificed my everything, home, health, future and happiness to protect and love people who have no idea the true horrors of a domestic violence relationship and what you go through for your children. After all it’s so true no one knows what goes on behind closed doors.
Bucket of Smiles 