The answer to the question is so simple I am both a leader and a follower.
I can take the lead when needed and have done on many times, being Mum, a Boss, Company Representative for a major company handling many contracts.
Then I also know how to take be directions and follow, be a follower.
We all are followers of one sort or another it just depends on how you define ‘follower’. You may be a follower of fashion, the latest music trend or stars. A follower of faith. You may prefer to follow with the team and be a part of the team, not wanting to be the one giving instructions, not wanting the responsibility.
Or as in my case you can happily do the both, sometimes at the same time, and at other times in different ages in life.
I do hope you understand what I have tried to say. Have a wonderful day
To be asked what is my mission? I am assuming it means my purpose in life, my reason for being, my calling in life.
Well after great thought and a deep soul searching which took an awful long time, I think I have an answer.
So it took me thirty seconds and the answer was there, my mission in life is to make people SMILE
I haven’t been doing a very good job recently as I seem to have lost my way a little but this question was like a push back into line to resume spreading smiles for they travel many miles .
One of my many poems about smiling and smiles, my problem was I listened to those that dislike me and his my work away, but I have since found that some of my poems have been used from nursery schools to abuse centres to help some people and make others smile.
So now I shall continue my mission.
Smile my friend it could be the best thing you could pass to an another person and it gives your face a workout.
Happy New Year, this is day one of 2025 and the first year I have decided not to make any resolutions.
There are a few reasons for my decision, number one being they don’t last. I actually feel I have enough challenges ahead of me without putting anymore strain on myself.
I have a list as long as my arm some personal, some things that have to be achieved. But nevertheless all are to me big challenges for someone in my position.
When I share parts of my life it’s never for sympathy or compassion, plus I am aware that there are people far worse off than I am. I guess it all depends on where you live in this world as to how you live your life, what your home is like, running water, shops or not.
I live in the UK, my life has been a whirlwind of destruction, from the age of 12-13 till now at 58. I can remember all the good things but sometimes it’s like looking through a mist to find them. Because of the Domestic Violence I have been through.
1. Now my challenges I face are after being moved and moved by police for safety, I have never allowed myself to settle and call a place home, now the children are grown and left to start there own families , it’s time for me to accept this town and place and make it my home. So now I find myself with a place that has some heart in it but nothing is as it should be. My house is a disaster zone not a home. I have this huge challenge to turn this place into the home I want to live in and be happy with on a budget of £5 and two buttons
2. Second challenge. Due to disability I’m limited to what I can move/lift even knowing if I can stay awake longer than an hour so that’s a challenge in itself. I have to find a way of not battling this but working with it , not blaming my ex but taking back control and pacing myself so that if today is a wipe-out ok no worries here’s hoping tomorrow is better. Make no plans and go with whatever I can cope with. I have had a long time to try and manage this but the GP surgery has been less than helpful, until recently. Now with a fresh approach in my mind I’m changing this challenge from a mountain to climb to a hill to come down. As it feels like I have been stuck on a hilltop alone for so long,battling several things now I am coming down and finding myself own way that’s my challenge
3. My third challenge has been driving me mad for a long time because I have been approaching it wrong, I have been writing for as long as I can remember and I have reams of poems, two manuscripts and a couple of children’s books to put forward to look at publishing. Obviously I have to work on them, this is where I derail my own train, so I have been told. Well I am no longer in a train I am on a huge galleon ship floating on the clouds. No rails for me to come off , no water to drown in. Because the whole thing is magical there are no planes or any type of aircraft to disturb me. So my challenge here is to smoothly sail the now still clouds and finish the edits needed as my procrastination will be dealt with in challenge 2. Making this one a much smaller hill to climb I hope.
There are plenty of challenges in life, money, disability equipment i.e wheelchair, money (oh mentioned that already), mental health, ptsd, money 😁, and on it goes.
But that’s enough for today, tomorrow I start afresh, I do hope you are having a lovely day
Yes I’m back, I didn’t go far, you must have known I wouldn’t just leave without saying a final Bon voyage.
Anyway as I was strolling through this day, metaphorically that is, it struck me that New Years Eve has never held big plans for me. I may have been out a few times (counted on one hand) but that is it, it is not a special night for me, so here I am sat thinking about the year that is ending and all the years prior.
I have music playing I raise a silent glass to 2024’ a year that I am pleased to see end and realise that it’s music that makes me nostalgic. Music invokes memories from places , people, occasions, happy and sad.
So that explains why music plays so heavily on my mood with the happy and sad emotions even laughter.
Just between us because after all we are friends, another thing that pulls my heartstrings on the nostalgia scale is a scruffy grubby almost threadbare Rabbit, he has been my companion since I was born and he sits in my room away from grandchildren, He is an old bunny now at 58 (delicate) he makes me think of all the tears and secrets he holds from my life. I wouldn’t share this with just anyone, but we are friends now don’t you think.
My Sweet Bunny
So not to bore you any further, I shall bid you goodnight and I will be back. As if I could abandon you
Wishing you the healthiest and most peaceful New Year, may you receive what you are working hard for.
I must apologise for the title to this piece, you see when I was younger I really believed Santa Claus was real and that our political parties wanted what was best for our nation (I live in the UK 🇬🇧).
Then I got a little older and at 16 the Uk sent the Military to a political incident in the Falkland Islands,normally I would say it’s called war when missiles are fired and people die. This was under the Conservative Leadership of Margaret Thatcher.
I decided that I didn’t believe in Santa and I would be Labour if getting people killed was being a Conservative. Also unemployment was high and a lot more issues at the time.
Now go further down the line Labour, Tony Blair once one of the most popular of prime ministers this country has ever seen. But like many people before him and many more to come, ultimate power ultimately corrupts.
A quote from “the Spectator” “In crucial areas, he wanted change for change’s sake, with no thought to the long-term consequences”
It’s almost like he got up one morning and started galloping through English and European Law and decided to start the process of change to things that did not need changing.
Then there was Iraq- I will say no more on that subject only ;
There was no need
So I changed again I looked left and right and in the middle and decided, politicians are not from the same world, the ones in government that is. The ones that influence and run the country have no idea how us mere mortals survive a bleak winter, while they sit in cosy homes, not worried about counting every last penny, or can they afford some bread and milk before payday. worried about the heating bill.
So back to the beginning yes my political views have changed over time I now think Santa Claus has more chance of being real than the Bumbling Buffoons that call themselves politicians ever doing something for the people of this country unless it suits an agenda for themselves.
Oops don’t forget the latest one changes the law to suit himself and tries to stamp out freedom of speech.
From now on I vote Santa at least he gives and doesn’t take, take, take
Life isn’t as serious as the mind makes it out to be — Eckhart Tolle.
Hello my friends, I made it once again. Now my biggest waste of time and I hasten to add, as I am doing it I am aware I am wasting minutes, hours and then the day is done, is ;
No it’s not that simple I have to explain, I have difficulty moving around which makes me tired and some days I can’t hardly move so this is my waste of time, my mind numbing don’t think about my situation or how I came to be (ugh) disabled. Ok I will stop with the waffling and tell you.
My biggest waste of time is reels on Facebook and Instagram even Tik Tok. I spend hours watching, smiling, giggling, sighing, and learning at times all the while the hours pass.
Well here we are again, enjoying the last few days of February, waiting to see how March bursts upon us, will it be the proverbial in like a lion 🦁 out like a lamb 🐑or the other way round (English saying thought to be around 17th C )(I hasten to add there are many claims to saying I just picked on the one below)
Who first said: “March comes in like a lion”?
“March comes in like a lion and goes out like a lamb” is an English proverb of unknown origin. It is first alluded to in print in A Wife for a Month, written in 1624 by John Fletcher (1579-1625),
Sorry just went a little off topic then, but that’s the kind of message I would send to myself. Ok here goes nudge me if I start to drift a little
Hey Young Me , it’s you older a little wiser and yes a lot bigger. I know, I look like Granny, but is that such a bad thing she was a beautiful soul, well, still is to you, cherish her and the few loved ones we have, plus you will never make her love you so don’t lose sleep or shed tears over that person 🆗. Actually please don’t chase love Ever.
I have to tell you reach out and grasp any learning you can, I know college is unavailable at the moment, but as soon as you have money spare, learn. What about? Everything, anything, take every opportunity you can and be happy don’t allow anyone to dim your light.💡. You are clever, and pretty and those awful things that happened were not your fault. Don’t waste your life looking for love it will find you and don’t let anyone ever hurt you again. Think if I made it without this advice think how high you can fly knowing this.
Allow no one to make you cry in pain or shameyou don’t deserve that life. Please take this final advice. With all my heart.
So there you have it my friend the advice sent back to my teenage self, if only it was possible, but we are here to learn . No one ever said life was easy
Keep smiling 😊
Kim-Louise
All the things I wish I had thought of saying, but feel.
Can I just say the title they don’t have to be shiny because that might be strange almost alien 👽 like, so stick to what is written BeLoW.
Let’s get straight into it today, the prompt that is. Who are my favourite people to be around? Simple, happy 😃, optimistic, people with enough intelligence to hold a conversation, people that have empathy and are kind, but have that witty spark ⚡️. People who suddenly burst into a one line of a song because maybe a word has reminded them of the song 🎶 or a colour or anything. The sort of people who you wouldn’t put together as a group, but that’s the best group, age, colour, creed nor gender matter when you have happiness in your heart you just radiate sunshine that spreads to everyone around you
My tagline is Kim-Louise, Spreading Smiles. I have used that for many years, partly because happy people make better choices in life. So smile and share some of that glow
When asked what is the greatest gift someone could give me, I have to answer from a place deep inside of myself I was unaware existed ;
I am not in need of anything thank you.
Material goods I am used to providing for myself, I need nothing and for that I am very lucky. I have sorted needs from wants at it certainly frees your mind.
I have done the, all I want is love and trust and it’s blown up in my face as it is unwrapped ..
If I have to give an answer it would be Time the greatest gift on earth.
There is one drawback with this request no one can add more time to your life but is that what I was asking?
No I am asking for someone to spend some Time with me.
The only issue being I have no special someone to spend that Time with me !
the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected.”the study will assess the relationship between unemployment and political attitudes”
When asked what relationships have had a positive impact on me, I almost passed it by but sometimes a little soul searching is good for us all. Or maybe the word I should use is cathartic.
My stepfather has had the biggest impact on my life relationship wise, now please remember we are talking pop positive vibes only, here they are
1. Stepdad he bought me up,taught me respect and values and bought God into my life. it broke me when he died a year ago.
2. Current Partner has shown me that love is real and will do anything to make me feel safe, he makes the traumas of my past disappear.
3. Carer this lady has been with me 12+ years she is amazing. It is good to have someone who knows me so well, that if needed can anticipate my every move when I’m poorly . As a bonus she has become my best friend as time has passed. Life would be so dull without her
These are the relationships that have defined me in a positive way,
We are so nearly at the of end another year , I wish you a Happy New Year 🥳
I hope you all have a pleasant day and hopefully communicate again
Bucket of Smiles 